"Have you talked to Hunter about it, and your feelings on it?"

Essek was not good at talking about his feelings, often times when he brought up emotions his tongue felt like cotton in his mouth, and he understood that it was hard and difficult to broach those subjects. "Or anyone really-- honestly, it is unfair to hold yourself accountable especially when it was a group of you that went into this-- you all were trying your best, and sometimes things seep under the cracks."

It was Essek's way of referring to the fact that it was not on Willow, should never be on Willow-- she could never anticipated the future or the outcome.